The Perpetual Need for Childish Endeavors… Like THREATENING People

OK my lovelies. Tis I. Your fiendishly familiar bitching bastard speaking out against the monotonous drone of idiocy that perpetually flows within the community.

For years we’ve been plagued with one form of idiocy or another in the GVC (Greater Vampire Community) and its time people begin to take a stand on the issues… AS THEY COME UP… After all, some of the have been around for a good long while and only cycle to the surface occasionally.

This time, folks, its people threatening people, either through outright threats of violence, inciting others to violence, and even, veiled threats of violence.

You see. Even in the best of communities you have people, often mislabeled as “bullies”, who go out of their way to make themselves seem like the victim, twisting events, attitudes, and actions along the way to enable this ‘victimhood’.

Take, for example, TWO of the three balls I attended this past Halloween.

One was the AMAZING Court of the Dark Fae. This event was held at the Audobon Zoo’s fantastic Tea Room with a secondary location held in the “swamp”, where I was to perform a Voodoo Ritual Blessing for the inaugural event. Most of my time there, I spent out on the open (and covered for the rain). MOST of the time, I was there, I was in the company of the King of Dallas, Mike Burgess. Even to the point of him itroducing me to Isibella. I filmed a little segment from the location, in which Lord Chaz was present. And then I made my way to the location where I was to do my ritual. Upon arrival, I spent time with Daniel du Kinque (mostly trying to track down the cigar, water and rum for the ritual). I did take time to check out the incredible buffet set up in this location. Fried Green Tomatoes and Roast Beast (on the rare side just like I like it)…

While at this particular venue, Maven was spinning, so I steered well clear of the DJ booth (until I was brought to the DJ booth by Isibella and her Court to perform the actual blessing). I saw Logan ONE time, to which I reached out my hand and said, “I still think of you, Brother.” and moved on to leave for the night. The whole exchange lasted LESS than 5 seconds and on my way out, I saw Daley coming off the ‘train’ as I was in line to get on the ‘train’ to go back to the main event space…

That’s it. One time. For LESS than 5 seconds. PERIOD. And then I caught Anya’s ritual in the main hall, to which I took a couple of sneak pics. Then I caught an uber and left. And only one rum shot was had the entire night because I take my Priesthood seriously when people hire me for work.

The SECOND event was the Alliance Ball. Upon entry, I spent time perusing the scene to see who was there and what, exactly, was going on where. I found a place to post up. Close to my two favorite things… The food and the booze. LOL. I poked my head out on the veranda ONE TIME. Noticed who was out there and turned around to steer clear of who was there… Logan and Daley.

I took a picture of where I posted up and made a campy comment about my “glamour” working and stayed right there EXCEPT for three specific occasions. The first, and most obvious, where I was standing for the predominant part of the night was RIGHT BEHIND THE MAIN BAR. Rum and cokes anyone???

The second time was to go and relieve myself. Yes, ladies and gentlemen, even I have to take a piss every now and again.

The third was to LEAVE THE ENTIRE BUILDING to go downstairs and deal with one of my kids who was in trouble. AS I WAS TALKING with him downstairs, Lori Koen Slavich, Beau Blackledge, and Aradia Esoterica made their illustrious entrance to the event.

After dealing with my wayward street child, I returned to the party. I posted up, yet again in that self same spot. At this time, however, I was joined by two young attendees, Mikki Loga and Steven Gunther.  We had a lovely conversation and it made the night so much more fun.

WHILE carrying on the conversation with Mikki and Steven, a disheveled Logan South came in from the direction of that patio balcony. I reached out my hand, yet again, and it was received. Logan then went on to ask where the bathroom was. I told him that it was behind him, second door on the left. He turned and began to go into the door IMMEDIATELY to the left… NOT the second door, so I called out to him that he was at the wrong door… TWICE. However, I. DID. NOT. MOVE. from my location.


This is where ‘veiled threat’ comes into play. Logan’s ENTIRE recount of the events, sadly, are a lie. A complete and utter fabrication. In his recounting of the events, he fails to take into account that I made NO MOVES that were not witnessed by CROWDS of people. As I said. I’m DELIBERATE not a fool.

I DELIBERATELY opened the doors for communication to have them shut in my face by an egomaniacal, manipulating douchepickle of a wannabe community leader who is more a cult leader than anything else.

Logan, in an open post on his facebook page, writes, “DO NOT try to corner me to shake my hand and make it appear that there is some peace between us. There isn’t.”

This predigious and, ironically, copy-cat egomaniacal douchepickle further states, “or I may deck your fucking lights out because I can’t stand the thought of having an abuser’s hand on my skin.”

You see. This is where, you may ask, what abuser is he talking about… Me. Of course. He’s perpetuating a lie based on a lie by someone else to justify his threat of violence. Even though people who have ACTUALLY spent YEARS living with me have stated several times that this is patently untrue. To justify his threat of violence, he has decided to embrace a lie…

This whole year has been about mending fences for many of us and many of the Elders in the GVC are actually attempting to cohesively work together to bring peace and understanding back into the GVC, as a whole… All save the group that call themselves “UNITY”… LOL

Sad. Pathetic. And becoming more sad and pathetic as time goes by…

Oh… And a personal message to Logan… This makes me more believe MIX’s side of the story of how you’ve sent goon squads after him and tried to force his little crazy ass away from the community. Oh. Wait. There’s even POLICE REPORTS that corroberate Mix’s side of the story. Sorry dude. YOU are the ABUSER. You’ve abused your people, your authority (such as it is), and your title.

To the rest of the GVC, as a whole, whenever you allow people of this nature, who either outright threaten others, or use veiled threats and are too chicken shit to actually name names in their threats, to enter your events, you are telling members of the GVC that you are TOTALLY OK WITH THE FACT THAT THERE MIGHT BE VIOLENCE AT YOUR EVENT. You might want to think about that when you’re producing your events.

Do you REALLY want to be seen as the person who allowed violence at your event? Do you REALLY want to take the chance that violence could break out at your event? It’s got to stop somewhere.

Threats have NO PLACE in ANY community. EVER. So stop with the childish bullshit. This isn’t Jr High. You’re not big boy/girl on campus. You can stop with the threats and veiled threats. Its so juvenile. And IF (and I do mean “IF”) you are truly attempting to be a good leader in the GVC, it might behoove you to understand that NOT EVERYONE is going to fall into your personal beliefs/attitudes/interests/associations. That’s just not how any community works.

Threats have NO PLACE in the GVC.

Stupidity in the GVC, YET AGAIN!!!

OK my lovelies… It is I, the Grumpy Friggin Bastiche From Hell.

Let me state this for the record. NEW ORLEANS IS NOW AND FOREVER A NEUTRAL HAVEN FOR THE WHOLE OF THE GVC. To that end, I am going to speak to YOU, the fucktard that decided to call a location, threaten the OWNERS of that location, to get ANY event cancelled makes you lower than low.

Yes. Yes. Yes. I know there are going to be those that are out there that are going to say that Logan is simply crying “wolf”! No. This time. Not even close. Events here, in New Orleans don’t just put money in the pockets of the “promoters”. It puts money in the COMMUNITIES pockets as well… From the hotels, B&Bs, Air B&Bs to the restaurants, pubs, bars of all flavors to the wait staff, bartenders, housekeepers, fast food servers, and any other friggin person that works in this TOURIST INDUSTRY FUCKING TOWN. In other words, you thankless fucktards, you attempted to take money out of MY pocket as well. I work in the tourist industry you fuckwitted cockknocking thundercunts.

You don’t seem to get it. EVEN though I had issues with Father Sebastiaan, I, PERSONALLY, took money out of my pocket to buy tickets for FOUR off duty police officers to attend Endless Nights to insure the safety of guests in New Orleans the year HIS event received threats similar to this nature. It was voted on by NOVA, ratified, and accepted that WE WOULD DO SOMETHING, because NEW ORLEANS IS A NEUTRAL MECCA FOR THE GREATER VAMPIRE COMMUNITY. As ANY of the Mecca’s for the community should be. We did it because it was THE RIGHT THING TO DO.

Logan and I have an issue. That will never be settled until WE, Logan and I alone, have a sit down and speak like adults. I will fight for his right to be a douchepickle all he wants. It is HIS right to be that. You don’t have a GODDAMN, MOTHERFUCKING, single right in this life, nor any other, to threaten the people who may be home to an event. Grow the fuck up you fucking pieces of shit. You want to fucking hurt him in MY city… You better be able to go through me and mine first… I will protect him. Despite, and maybe because of, him being a douchepickle. I will protect him because he is coming to MY city. I will protect him because it is the RIGHT thing to do. Like it or not. He brings people here to enjoy themselves in New Orleans and has EVERY right to do so.

You think its cool to take the money out of people’s pockets so that you can have your fucking little jollies. You’re no better than those fucking people threatening the children after a mass shooting. You are no better than those fuckers torturing the children in the fucking concentration camps on our Southern border. You are fucking no better than the motherfuckers who have harped on Greta’s autism instead of arguing her points.

You deserve NOTHING good in life.

You ARE the fucking weakest link.

DON’T come to New Orleans.

DON’T fucking stay on my friend list, if you happen to be part of it.  I know there are ‘observers’ from other groups there… Including some who may have been a part of this fucking stupid enterprise to fuck someone over.

Fuck off… Fuck straight off…

Vampires, Roleplayers, Larpers and the Crescent City! Oh MY!

Look. I’m all for people being proud of their cities. It is something that SHOULD be a part of EVERYONE within the GVC, in general, and the world beyond that.

I’m proud of New Orleans. I am proud that, even though people are attempting to make it seem differently, She will ALWAYS be neutral in nature… As any “Mecca for the GVC” should be. Yes. There are MORE than one “Mecca for the GVC”.

Now. I don’t give a damn who lays claim to a piece of New Orleans. I don’t give a damn what organization you belong to. I ONLY give a damn about what you bring to the city. The hope you inspire within the community.

That’s it. That’s all I am concerned with. What you bring to the party, so to speak…

The past few days have been uncharacteristically hateful and filled with a vomitous bile.  Disregarding the very fact that not one person has come forth with any sort of common sense solution… Its just been muck-raking, mud-slinging, and a shit storm of what-aboutisms. Finger-pointing about every feckless, dubious allegation from 20+ years ago to the present.


You’re supposed to be friggin adults. Well let me clue you in on a little something. AS AN ADULT, just because I have problems with someone, this doesn’t mean that I won’t go to events to mingle with OTHER GVC members that I am friends with or consider to be close enough to call “family”. I am NOT supporting a specific person. I am supporting COMMUNITY. EVERY event, whether Endless Nights, Blood Lust, Alliance, Anne Rice, or even NOVA’s Cirque Du Nuit, hosts vendors and talent from across the spectrum of the community. I, like many others, go to support THEM. Not one specific person. THE. COMMUNITY. MEMBERS. EMPLOYED. BY. THESE. EVENTS. As well as to meet with those that have come to enjoy the Crescent City.

AS AN ADULT I do NOT judge a whole group of people based on the actions of a portion of that group. I judge people based on their OWN actions. I do NOT tell people who they can and cannot be friends with because I do NOT like being told who I can and cannot be friends with. That’s called being a FUCKING ADULT.

WHEN you come to New Orleans KNOW that those that are of the true spirit of New Orleans will NEVER make you choose between which parties to attend, which people to speak to, which places to go.  We will ONLY ever ask that you be safe. We will ONLY ever ask you to respect the Hotel/Motel, bar, event staff. We will ONLY ever want for you to enjoy your stay in our beautiful Crescent City.

FUCK the haters. ENJOY. FUCK any and all who attempt to tell you what parties and people to support. That is NOT the adult thing to do.

OH. And just to reiterate a few other things. I AM perfectly cool with sitting down like adults and hashing things out. I’ve made this KNOWN since Father Sebastiaan and I had issues… Yet. NOT ONE of you attempt to do this. No. You’d rather continue the same fucking shit that has perpetuated bad blood since the very beginning of the GVC. Sad. Bigly.

But what can I expect from people who continue to act like the GVC version of the GOP and continually spinning bad behavior to what they feel makes them appear to be innocent…

I. AM. AVAILABLE. I don’t hide for any reason nor from anybody. Feel free to say, “Hey. Zaar. Can we talk?”… I will let you know if I can, at that time, or if I need to set up another time for it. I. AM. AVAILABLE. TO. TALK. LIKE. AN. ADULT

(Have the simple minded got this fact yet??)

To those that think they know me… Grow the fuck up. If you truly knew me, you’d know that I can be a highly forgiving person.

Otherwise… Keep my fucking name out your mouth.

Yet again… Into the breach

Look. I’m not here to tell you what to believe or why to believe it. I’m here to speak on a subject that seems to be the hallmark of the weak and the plaything of the wannabe in crowd.


OK. We have a group of individuals who seem to find it funny to allow people to threaten others on their facebook wall. “We’re gonna come there and handle things the wolf way”, “Someone should beat that ass”, “I’m planning a road trip to show those assholes just what I can do” and shit like this.

Are you fucking kidding me?? Have you fucking NOT been paying attention to what the hell is going on in the United States lately? People are being absolutely ape-shit bonkers and following through with OTHER people’s threats of violence.

Hell. We even have idiots carrying out shit simply because it will please and/or appease those who CALL people to violence. There are some people who are TRULY mentally ill.  These people will ALWAYS put the needs of one person or another over the safety of the community.

As I wrote, in response to yet another Darwin award winning person, and repeated on VCN, “However, as EVERYONE should be aware, there ARE mentally unstable people in EVERY community on the face of the planet. The GVC is NOT exempt from this fact… (There are) those who WILL take the animosities to the next level. Inciting violence is an actual issue… ESPECIALLY, lately in the America…”

2)  Pointing fingers

C’mon. Do I REALLY have to get into the whole, “this is so fucking childish that it is BEYOND grade school”. Stop. Address the issues that arise and stop with the whole ‘What About-isms”… Who the fuck do you think you are? A bloody fucking Republican talking about Hillary’s friggin emails?? JesusFrigginChristOnACrutch. Grow the fuck up. Are the allegations true, ‘yes’ or ‘no’? Why are they true or false? What’s being done about those that are true? What’s being done about those that are false?

That’s all anyone is TRULY concerned about. Why is this so fucking hard?

As an OPENLY gay man in the GVC, I have had my fair share of false allegations. EVERY time it is by certain individuals that I have spoke out against. EVERY. FUCKING. TIME. And it is ALWAYS, “he slept with an underaged person”, though the individuals making the claims have known me for years and KNOW, beyond the shadow of a doubt that I have never dated anyone under the age of 21. (Cause I like my boiz legal to drink so we can go dancing and attend GVC social functions.) It is ALWAYS the same people. ALWAYS. That spread these malicious, incindiary, and heinous accusations. Always. The. Same. People. I’ve fought these allegations fang and claw and will continue to do so. *shrug* I don’t know any other way.

However. I handle my OWN shit. I don’t plead for people to fight for me. I handle my shit. BECAUSE of this… Because of the type of person I am… Because of the good that I CONTINUE to do DESPITE the heinous allegations levied against me… People have begun to speak up on my behalf.  INCLUDING those that have lived with me for extended periods of time… From my Best Friend, who now resides in Dallas, to people who ACTUALLY were on Contract with me to people who have stood beside me, worked with me, partied with me, and seen me through major bouts of illness or helped me feed the homeless. People have begun to call BULLSHIT on the allegations.

One time those stupid people tried that when I was dating a 36 year old cop. You should have seen the giggle we both got over that shit. Damn it was funny…

3) STOP Attempting To Call People Out As ‘FAKE’

Who the fuck died and made you the Watcher of the Were, the Umpire of Vampire-dom, the Bench of the Bestiary??? You are NOT the authority of what makes a vampire a vampire because EVERYTHING we have is ANECDOTAL at best… Supposition, at worst. So stop.  Just fucking STOP already. You know the one thing that you will NEVER see or hear from me… Who is and who isn’t a vampire. Oh. I have my thoughts on it. I do. However… Calling someone “White Wolf/True Blood posers”, “roleplayers”, “LARPers” or ANYTHING is NOT. YOUR. FUCKING. PLACE.

Sorry. It is not your place. Never was. Never will be. We’ve had enough drama in the community by people attempting to do this. Stop adding to it.

4) Do You REALLY Need To Be So BLATANTLY Stupid

Internet threats are a growing issue in this fucking community. People threatening to dox people all the time. People posting and calling out community members birth names, when people live in situations that can potentially be VERY dangerous. Are you fucking SERIOUS? When did this community turn to acting like the GOP? C’mon, folks. We’ve worked HARD to get from the shadows into OUR version of the light. Many of us live in cities, states, and countries where it is completely, and horrendously, dangerous to be what we are. Those of us that are blessed to live in an area where we can be MORE open city STILL have to be careful. There are simply stupid people out there who will fuck over community members because their names have been laid out there.

Stop acting so fucking stupid. Yay. You know a person’s birth name. Keep it to yourself or pass it PRIVATELY to people who may need to know it. Otherwise… SHUT THE FUCK UP. God I can’t believe how stupid and dangerous some of our supposed intellectuals and researchers are… Just blurting people’s birth names out because they have a wild hair up their arse. Posting it in bogs, speaking it on Facebook Live… Don’t. Don’t attempt to justify endangering people’s lives simply because you are responding to another person’s threats… That’s simply ludicrous and HYPOCRITICAL of you for justifying it as “protecting the community”.

5) In Closing.

Yes. We ARE a community. Like it or not. We may be a “subset” of humanity, however, we ARE a community. We have different factions, which we call everything from Courts to Councils to Orders to… We have a plethora of names for everything in the community. Like EVERY community, we’ve begged, borrowed, and outright stolen from every other community that has drawn our interest. We’ve done it to religions. We’ve done it to ancient cultures. We’ve done it to practically everything that has attracted our attention.

We ARE a community. Like EVERY community we do not always agree, see eye to eye, or like every other part of the community so STOP with the “we aren’t a real community” bullshit. We are just as real as ANY other community you can name. We started off, like many of them, as merely a fringe community and grew into what we are now.

We continue to grow. Just as EVERY other community has. We, sadly, won’t always get along, even in the best of times… Just as every other community. Yet. We grow.

To that end. It is my sincerest hope that one day. One day. We can get the fuck over the stupid assed power trips by people who can’t seem to control their own preternatural impulses long enough to see the harm they bring to the community as a whole. I don’t care WHAT kind of group you run. FOLLOW YOUR FUCKING RULES to the best of your ability and don’t just fucking do things to keep your higher ups “safe”. That is a dismal representation of the community as a whole and will ALWAYS lead to people thinking you are wrong about what you are doing.

This has been the Beast of Bitchery… Belfazaar Ashantison

Have a fucking night… I don’t give a damn what kind… Fuck off with the stupidity and leave my fucking name out of your fucking mouths.

Oh What A Web We Weave…

Oddly enough,  I am back again… This time, I am going to do the whole EFWAC thing that I was most known for, back in the day. For those of you not familiar with the earned acronym, let me spell it out for you. EFWAC means “Evil Faggot With A Cause”… Now, before anyone gets on their high horse. I AM an OPENLY gay man and CLAIM that word with all the power people has used it against me.


No. Let’s get right to the meat of why I am here tonight. The web of deceit that so many people seem intent on actively participating in. I’ve witnessed, time and again, people PURPOSELY misconstrue something by ACTIVELY changing words to twist something written/spoken to something completely different.  All it takes is moving/removing ONE word. Changing ONE word. In this case, using the term “BloodTHIRST” to replace “BloodLUST”.

By that very intentional switch, the person TRULY switched the meaning of what was written to something other than what was written. And they used that switch to entreat OTHERS on their behalf to make the original author, whom they blatantly left out, appear to be the enemy of their scenario. Well. Here’s where the EFWAC comes into this… I was the ORIGINAL author. It was MY words that were twisted and that is the ONE thing that I can NEVER forgive nor forget. Don’t pretend your intentions were/are honorable and that you’re just ‘making conversation’.

It was and always will be, used to demean someone else and make you, the twister, look better than you are. In the GVC, it is ONLY used to hype up a person’s followers and to shine a dark light on those who disagree with you on some banal level. How utterly Jr High of you… 

Yes. I wrote “HOW. UTTERLY. JR HIGH. OF. YOU.” Because that is EXACTLY what it is. It is just as stupid as that. Jr High, at best…

Instead of opening dialogue to further understanding, you would rather demean someone. Oh. You left my NAME out of your mouth and OFF your screen, however, we ALL know how the cliquish little circles run. You bring up a topic. Leave someone’s name out of it. Change ONE or more words. And WATCH… Your “friends” start jumping in on it. Rallying to your cause and accepting your point of view as “gospel truth” without ONE IOTA of searching to see if that IS what the person said/wrote or not. Then they come to you in private to see who would say/write such a thing. Then the whole thing spirals from there into a world of “he said/she said” nonsense that the GVC is rife with.

Your peep rally around your conflated ego to assuage your issue and reassure you that YOU are in the right. Fragile. Self-inflated. Egotistical. Misleading. And, yes… Jr High…

Again. If people want clarification on what I have said and/or written, why not just friggin ask me?? How hard is it? It’s not like I don’t answer people when they speak/write to me. Hell. I go out of my way to allow people to know WHERE they can find me when they come to New Orleans…

So. Stop with the Jr High routine. It is TRULY degrading and fits every little detail of what people say is the worst of the community.


The World According to Dark Tourist

OK my lovelies,

After much ado, hullabaloo, and outright poo, I’ve finally watched the episode of Dark Tourist that contained GVC members in it.  Ya know what I saw.  EXACTLY WHAT I EXPECTED TO.

Casual observation of the episode produces THIS synopsis: A person who is looking to understand the community based on his OWN point of view WHICH, by the way, had NOTHING to do with experience WITHIN the GVC.  This person, a journalist, with a sensationalized, produced for the limited attention span of the masses, wannabe scare-a-thon…

I watched as KNOWN vampires, Lord Chaz, Maven, Logan, and Daley appeared in the first portion to show their connections to vampirism.  Attempts to be enigmatic aside, they opened up themselves to show this person vampirism from THEIR perspective.  They shared Logan and Daley’s love for each other with the world by sharing a piece of their wedding.  Maven shared his thoughts and bared a piece of HIS soul…  All of it wasn’t the surreal “acting” piece that so many people seemed to make it out to be.  They weren’t garishly dressed.  They weren’t being all Shakespearean in effort. They were just being THEM.

So why all the hullabaloo over how they were dressed, acted, or whatever… I didn’t see the person/journalist being an asshole.  I saw them asking questions and getting nonplussed answers to those questions in an attempt to be enigmatic.  *shrug* When you allow a journalist to develop their own POV about what you are attempting to explain to them, you can’t be enigmatic and nonplussed in your answers… They will ALWAYS jump to the wrong conclusion on whatever the topic is… ESPECIALLY in a show that is based on sensationalism.

I watched as New Orleans Vampire Association members opened up their home and lives for the camera to celebrate one of their own in keeping with their own traditions.  I watched as, yet again, I performed a “clean technique” which WAS explained (yet somehow didn’t make it into the final cut… Ah. The magic of editing!!) as it is during EVERY filming.  Donovan (Sheoul, as he is known in the local community) WAS/IS a roommate, was not homeless when he moved in, and, this was his very first appearance on-screen.  Nervous. Yes.  He is not one of my regular Donors.  He was a stand-in because 2 of my Donors were out-of-town, 1 was sick, and the last one DOES NOT WANT TO BE ON CAMERA AT ALL due to his job sensitivity.

Unlike what people want to proclaim, this is and was the truth of the situation.

Editing notwithstanding, this episode wasn’t the worst thing filmed by any of the members of the GVC on ANY level.  The journalist was able to see MULTIPLE people within the community, straight, LGBT, dressed up, and in jeans and t-shirts… The only true issue I have is that for ALL of the time they spent with BOTH sets of Vampires, they cut it down to a 15 minute segment.  How is ANYONE supposed to get a clear view of the GVC if people film for days at a time to whittle it down to a 15 minute segment?

NOW FOR THE BITCH SECTION of this writing…

If you’re so fucking insecure about yourself that you have to tear someone else down due to the piss poor editing of a show, then maybe you should rethink your fucking role as a “leader” of the GVC.  I’m sorry… To attack someone based on a NON-GVC member’s point of view because you chose to PURPOSELY be enigmatic and nonplussed in your answering of questions is ASININE, at best. It is the height of STUPIDITY, at worst.  Worse yet, to attack someone’s sexuality… That numbers you among the lowest of the low. PERIOD.  I don’t expect an apology.  I don’t demand an apology.  I DESERVE an apology for your homophobic rhetoric… I know it won’t come, however, because of your own attitude. You echoed the same lies, in your heinous, whiny, bitchfest that others have attempted to slander me with over the years… Only this time… This time, you chose to post the lies to your wall and attempt to justify your lies by belittling any who spoke the truth to you.  Yeah… How very Trumplethinskin of  you… Typical of someone who doesn’t want to face the truth.  The truth is THE SHOW made you feel all assblasted butthurt.  The piss poor editing, the shoddy narration, and the lackadaisical journalist… NOT me.  NOT NOVA… The SHOW.

We won’t even get into the fact that NOVA attempted to drop out of the filming when the crew told us how you “invited” yourselves to participate in it because we didn’t want to be associated with ANYTHING you were part of.  It was the film company that stated that they wanted us to remain part of the filming because they felt you guys were ‘overacting’ and ‘unrealistic in your approach’… *shrug* We tried, they still wanted us to be part of it all.  In the end, they twisted everything from WHY I blessed Lori’s home to every aspect of your ‘performance’ before their cameras.

By all means, however… PLEASE… Continue to blame NOVA and me for the editing of a second rate travel program on a pay-per-view channel.  It shows just how much pull we, as an organization, have throughout the world… (that’s sarcasm, asshats…)

Oh… And to the OTHER person attempting to say the same thing EVEN after people who ACTUALLY lived with me for YEARS spoke up, your blind hatred of me shone through.  Blind.  Hatred.  That’s OK, dear.  We know that you’ve had a hard on for me since the day you announced how you and yours were leaving the community and I told you it was a foolish thing to do… Since then, any way to trash me, my work, my motivation, and anything else I am part of.  Nice try though.  Especially since your ‘key witness’ has never lived with me… EVER… *shrug*  Which means that it is unsubstantiated rumor, at best.  Thanks for playing the “let’s trash Zaar because I’m all butthurt that he wouldn’t support my effort to have Sanguine Vampires walk away from the GVC”… Johnny, tell her what she get’s to leave with!!!

Buh… Buh… Buh-bye.  Do come again…


Batten down the hatches, ladies and gentlemen, and secure the mainsail.  She’s gonna be a blow!!!


Everyone in the GVC has, at one point or another, felt the loss of a family member, friend, beloved pet/furbaby.  There is no… Let me repeat that for the members in the back of the audience… THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR BAD BEHAVIOR AND BELITTLING A PERSON OVER SUCH A LOSS.

IF, and I DO mean “IF”, you are the kind of person that can’t empathize or sympathize with someone over such a fucking loss.  KEEP YOUR FUCKING COMMENTS TO YOURSELF.  It shouldn’t matter whether or not you agree with their particular brand of politics, religious views, societal role, past misbehaviors, appearances, whathaveyou, THEY had a loss.  I don’t care what your association with the GVC is.  I don’t care whether you’re Vampire, Donor, Therian, Otherkin, Black Swan (supporter), interested party, or Vampiriologist.  You’re a disgusting piece of shit, to me, if you can’t be civil long enough to acknowledge the grief another is going through.

Who the fuck made you the fucking moral monitor of who does and does not deserve empathy/sympathy in a loss of this caliber? What fucking right have you to even fucking comment on who the people are or what they have or have not done, when a post is about FUCKING LOSS? I don’t care WHO the fuck you THINK you are, you’re a disgusting piece of shit if you can’t simply acknowledge a person’s loss and grief all the while making petty swipes at what you do or do not like about this fucking interview, that fucking appearance or what the fuck ever.  Grow the fuck up you high school wannabe acting fucks.

It is times of loss and grief that you’re supposed to be supportive of a community member, whether you agree with their motivations or not.  It is times of loss, suffering, and grief that we are supposed to reach out and PROVE that we are working towards making the community a better, more accepting place for ALL members of the community no matter what group they are affiliated with and no matter whether or not you agree with that group or their tactics.

A Personal Message to Logan, Daley, and Michelle:

Logan and Daley, I am sorry for your loss.  I know the grief of losing a furbaby.  When my Lucy Lu was taken from me by a hit and run driver right out in front of my home, it devastated me.  I still, to this day, feel the loss.  May you speed to recovery and may your remaining furbabies close the gaping whole left by your loss.

Michelle.  Never let assholes stop you from being the beautiful soul you are.  I don’t give a damn WHO they are.  Be you. Post what you want. Stop trying to appease everyone and work towards doing things you know make YOU feel better.

“Ye Olden Days” of the GVC

There’s been a LOT of talk in the GVC of pining for the “old days”. Sadly, OLDER Vampires have forgotten what the “old days” were ACTUALLY like and the YOUNGER Vampires are attempting to succor themselves on a bazillion different stories of “past glories” created by a specific contingent of people without actually knowing or understanding what it is they are even asking to have happen.

Let me tell you something. Aside from the pageantry and the mildly outlandish need to drape everything in Edwardian/Victorian garb, the community WASN’T as glamorous and “glorious” as people want to remember it. It was dark, nefarious, and stained with attitudes and egos to the point that any normal person looking in would have turned from it as nothing more than a collection of nutters needing a much larger sanitarium for the clinically insane. From the outside view, it was nothing more than a wannabe gothic style rendition of club kids gone wrong. And the INSIDE look wasn’t much better.

Inside… Inside pompous ego driven drivel spewed as “the Gospel of So-N-So the Such-N-Such of the (now adding the word ‘modern’) Vampire Community”… Really? REALLY?? It has been established that there WERE Houses long before the dark nights at Mother’s from “back in the day”. Grinding music mixed with dark fantasy action, derelict souls, drugs, alcohol, and, on special occasions, violence to “offending parties” who may or may not have known what ‘offense’ they were accused of committing… We weren’t the “glorious beings” of unbridled wisdom, culture, and class that some would have you believe we were. No. We were decadent, dirty, and could get downright rude. Like I said, we were a gothic style of club kids gone wrong. And there is no glory or honor in that. PERIOD.

Yeah. Go ahead and long for the “Good Ol’ Days”, I’m gonna stick with watching the crop of new, up and coming community members and lend them whatever help that I am able, for as long as I am able, however, don’t think I will make it completely easy on them. It wasn’t easy on me, when I first entered the community, so why should I make it easy on the next generations?

“Respect my authority!!” seems to be a cry that both young and old alike tend to rally around, however, there’s one problem with that. Each area, each group, each House/Clan/Coven/Order, is more like its own city kingdom and ONLY the people IN these particular groupings hold any sway OVER those groupings. Your vaunted ‘authority’ extends to the limits of that which you THINK is your territory. And I do mean ‘THINK’. Unless you are a duly elected, voted for by the entirety of the public in YOUR city, county/parish, or state, you haven’t got a leg to stand on when claiming territory. Sorry to those who feel otherwise, however, this is why Feds tend to look at groupings of Vampires like gangs… We’re territorial over NOTHING… Especially with all the newfangled groups popping up in what was already established territories and undermining the established groups that were there before.

SPEAKING of (and to) the Younger members of the community… Since when, IN ANY COMMUNITY on the face of the planet, is it an AUTOMATIC action to grant respect to those newly entering the community? (There isn’t one) ESPECIALLY a community that has built itself up around a mythical creature KNOWN for being a bit of a bastard when it came to their own children and younger members of their species? A creature known for being the penultimate predator? When people come to me, who happen to be younger/new to the community and DEMAND the same respect that a person who has been in the community 10, 15, 20, even 25+ years in the community, the ONLY thing I can do is laugh at them and think to myself, “petulant child” and turn to the next person asking a legitimate question about what it is to be a Vampire. I’m an old fart from what seems to be worlds away. I grew up in TWO communities where Elders were treated with dignity and respect (whether or not they were currently doing things for those communities) and the thought of FORCING them out because they were too old did not cross anyone’s mind for long… And it DAMNED sure wasn’t sought after by people DEMANDING them to move over so THEY could take over. (Yes, there were exceptions to the rule, however, this WAS the rule) Elders were simply respected and sought out for council, wisdom, and understanding where we came from.

We, the older generation, are NOT morally obligated to just hand over everything we’ve learned through our years in the GVC dealing with our condition. You want respect, GIVE IT. I do TRY to be respectful, however, even I have my limits on how much attitude, stupidity, rudeness, and disrespect I will take before I blow a gasket at someone. When it happens, answers become snippy and sharp, filled with just as much attitude and disrespect as I felt I received. When one of my friends calls me out for being wrong, or I calm down and re-read my shit, I have been known to apologize. *shrug* I’m not perfect and have never pretended to be.

No. Instead, we have an ever increasing gap between disrespectful youth and active (and not so innocent) elders. So much so that the GVC, as a whole, has devolved into nothing more than an attention seeking shouting match over who deserves what and why they feel that way. This, to me, is the saddest part of being in the community. Such an impasse. Such a Great Rift. Such a fucking, drawn out, overly emotionalized drama fest that I can’t believe it is STILL going on with ALL of the people stating “let’s be adults about this”… JesusHChristOnACrutch…

How do we fix these issues? How do we, as an identity group, stop the madness that seems to be ever present in each and every topic posted in each and every group, blog, email chain, whathaveyou?
1) Stop romanticizing the “Good Ol’ Days”. Those of us who lived through them and weren’t part of the “in crowd” (you know who they were) KNOW that they weren’t as glorious and grand as certain people are making them out to be. Ye Olden Days were filled with just as much horseshit, drama, infighting, anger, hatred, and jealousy that we see present in TODAY’S GVC. It is tragic to see the number of people trying to “relive their glory days” by assuming positions of power over OTHER communities… All in the name of “Ye Olden Days”…
2) Stop fantasizing that ONE certain group of people created the community, it was in existence before I entered it at the age of 13 in 1978 and some records, just from my initial ‘House’ dated back to the 1930s when we were nothing more than an “offshoot” of the pagan communities. I give them props for being one of the first to organize to the point of hosting out of the coffin events, however, they WERE NOT THE BEGINNING OF THE COMMUNITY and to play otherwise is asinine, at best.
3) Stop tuning out whenever any younger member of the community approaches you, if you are an older member of the community. Stop trying to intimidate and DEMAND respect from the older members who may or may not know (of) you. Stop assuming either way that respect is supposed to be mutual. Its not. Respect is an earned quality and only through action and dignity can you hope to earn it from people. In the GVC, most notably, respect is granted by some of us to everyone, until you prove your little more than shit and shinola, then, those like me, will show you courtesy, however, we will not respect you.
4) IF, someone has offended you, don’t pretend you didn’t do anything to earn that shit. Man/Woman up and admit that you may have done something to earn the ire and FUCKING APOLOGIZE! JesusFrigginChristOnACrutch!!! People saying “I’m sorry” (and meaning it) is about as rare as finding a virgin now-a-days to sacrifice to a volcano for good weather… (a joke fuckers, get over yourselves) Seriously, though, apologize and mean it. It goes a LONG way to smooth things over.
5) Remember that this is an ever growing, ever evolving community. As nuances are learned of our ‘condition’, each piece of information held needs to be re-evaluated as surely as the pieces of information coming INTO the community. No one member of the GVC… No one House/Clan/Coven/Order of the GVC… holds all of the answers to our condition. I’ve used the term “fully awakened” to describe myself, yet, even I know that I am still learning things about myself and refining the knowledge that I THOUGHT I held about my vampiric condition causing me to re-evaluate and refine how I approach my ‘condition’.
6) Remember that EVERYONE from the newest member of the GVC to the oldest of the old farts speaks from THEIR OWN UNDERSTANDING of their condition. If you do not understand something or need clarification to understand something better… OPEN YOUR FUCKING MOUTHS AND ASK IN A RESPECTFUL MANNER. It’s not that damned hard. Here. Let me give you an example… “Could you please explain to me a little more about what you meant when you wrote/said such-n-such thing in this group/discussion/email/interview/whathaveyou?” Some of you act like you haven’t been to preschool/kindergarten/first or second grade where they harped on subjects like manners…
7) STOP acting like you and yours are the end all be all of the GVC… You’re nothing but another cog in the wheel of progress that has led us from the shadows of reclusive ‘Houses’ to secretly communicating through BDSM mags and gathering at BDSM events to the open gatherings at places like Mother’s to the current incarnation of gatherings we see active in our community in recent years. You’re just another cog… And not even the most innovative one at that. ESPECIALLY with all of the “balls” looking, acting, and being virtually the same shit different location…
8) Start making MORE family friendly events. Yes. FAMILY FRIENDLY. We are seeing more and more members WITH children in the community. I’m not saying to indoctrinate the children, I’m saying plan a friggin day at the zoo, a water park, an amusement park, a family movie. Don’t you want to be able to say we are a WHOLE community? Our children ARE part of our lives and SHOULD be thought of in, at least, local events.
9) START adding LGBT friendly events. With as many of us that are, and have been, part of the GVC, you would think ONE of these money grubbing events would have pulled something in for them. Hell. Even the girl on girl action of the burlesque shows is ONLY to entice the heterosexual males NOT celebrate the Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transwomen of the community. Vanna turn a vowel for these fuckers so that MAYBE, just maybe, they will get a damned clue.
10) Remember, the next generation is watching, listening, and experiencing how the older generations treat them. Fucking act like damned adults and stop trying to speak ABOVE the younger generations as if you’re the most authoritative person on the face of the fucking planet. I’m hard on them, as I’ve mentioned before, however, I do it because I WANT to see them succeed where efforts tried by MY generation failed miserably… Get it. Got it. Good…

Well, this Grumpy Vampire is fucking tired as shit after working all day and typing this missive… Suck it up, buttercups. Only by working together, both generations, will we make this a better community for those following us… NOT by re-inventing the wheel and throwing the same sort of parties every fucking year, ad nauseum.

Sadly, I know this will not reach those it should. Those younger rising stars of the GVC who, though feeling the sting of my generation, are STILL attempting to better the community despite the upheaval of attitude at change that many members of the community bring to the table.

Remember, folks, stagnation equals death. Just like my very first ‘House’, if you stagnate, you die out.



Ageism and the GVC Part Deux




  1. prejudice or discrimination on the grounds of a person’s age.


So… With my last article, I ruffled a few feathers on the younger side of things… Now let’s see if I can do it again.  To aid me in this endeavor, I have garnered the help from a friend whom has more than a few resounding tete-a-tetes with me.  Alexia Ashford.  To that end, I thought I would present this as more of a “conference style” with two “guest speakers”.  Hereafter, my sections will simply be headed by “Z:” while Alexia’s sections will be headed by “A:” to which I am JOKINGLY going to call this “conference style” writing, “Alpha and Omega on Ageism”…

Z:  Ageism is a VERY real and present danger in the GVC, however, don’t just think that it flows towards the OLDER members of the community alone.  Ageism is far more sinister in its subtlety than that.  Because of the influx of “seekers”, “writers”, “investigative journalists”, “vampirologists”, and even the newly awakened/fledgling/noobies several of the OLDER members in the community are just plain cranky and burnt out, it seems.  They treat EVERY new person coming into the community as if they were little more than a nuisance complete with absolute disregard and disrespect for even the simplest of questions.

A:  Ageism is not something that should be tolerated in any community. All members have something of value, something to contribute. The relationship between the different generations should be a symbiotic one. We all benefit from each other.

Z: Yes.  Younger members of the community have felt the lash of ageism. People act as if they are bothering them with their questions and queries, instead of attempting to mentor them so that they receive good, quality information.  We ALL know that there is some true bullshit and oogie boogie shamalama dingdong teachings out there in the GVC.  We know that the information out there is multitudinous in its variations and yet, when a new person comes in, instead of guiding, mentoring, fostering, whatever fucking term you would like to put on it, we FAIL to step up.

A:  Ageism TOWARD the younger generation is another thing we must be aware of and vigilant to stamp out. It is the job of a leader to step forward and support our younger members where possible. I have noticed a distinct condescension in some spaces. I’ve seen people of my generation called ‘brats’, with nothing to worry about except ‘finding the right shade of makeup’. We must remember that, especially in the current political climate, it is imperative that minorities do not stand divided. We must build each other up, not tear each other down. As fresh faces to the community, the guidance that a seasoned mind can provide is incredibly useful. Guidance from a seasoned sang and the history of sangs in the VC has helped massively in defining where I go with my own personal projects.

Z:  I AM being general on purpose as to the terms of the Grumpy Vampire guidelines.  We point out TRAITS not point fingers.

I am not speaking about those people who, when presented with information, who simply REFUSE to even bother reading it and then continue to ask the same questions over and over again ad nauseum… I’m also not talking about those people that you have to EXPLAIN things over and over again because they just don’t seem to grasp the simplest of concepts.  Nor am I speaking of the person who “interviews” the community members until we feel like setting up recorded messages with all of the information that they’ve ever asked, which also comes over and over again, ad nauseum…

I’m speaking about those “newly awakened” who are ACTUALLY attempting to understand their condition.  Why is it that we, as a community, complain about stagnation yet stomp on the very fabric of growth that comes with enthusiasm? Or a genuine needs to find THEIR particular truth in all of this? Or the genuine desire to find where they fit in and how they can work to make the community a better place?

A:  As with all things, if a community doesn’t adapt, it dies. Younger people are a generation just starting to come into their own. For the longest time, I’ve heard “I can’t do this, the Elders won’t let me”. To me, that has never been the case. All leaders, young or old, respect action. You don’t need permission from members with more tenure to follow your passion and try to see your vision realized. A fresh perspective and passion is what we bring. WE are the generation that will inherit the fruits of that labour.

Question:  Why are you hard on the younger/older members of the GVC?

Z:  I’m hard on young ones, I know.  I don’t take the shit I used to take when I was in my 30s and EARLY 40s, however, when a particular young member of the community makes it past my bullshit-o-meter, I endeavor to give them support.  If they attempt a project that I have seen come and go 50 times already, I tell them why I feel it failed.  I never say “Don’t attempt that, it’s been done to death and failed every time.”  I LITERALLY tell them, “This has been tried before and failed.  Here are the reasons that *I* saw for the failure.”  More than a few people have misread what I was attempting to do, and that’s OK.  I will endeavor to continue this trend.

A:  I think the biggest reason I have been hard on some people in the community is a lack of tolerance for adaptation and change.  This is the case for me, especially.  I came into the community with an uncommon perspective and one that was, at the time, controversial.  I faced a lot of pushback for wanting a point of distinction between blood drinker who were secular and believed their need to be purely a physical phenomenon.  I think that the established leader should do whatever they can to lend support to worthwhile projects and cultivate a culture of innovation and idea generation.  Creating new projects is difficult.  There can sometimes be condescension or outright hostility.  This isn’t always the case, and it is far from everyone.  My greatest supporters have also come from the older community members.

Question:  How do we fix the ageism in the GVC?

Z:  We have to start changing the way we respond to or deal with new people asking questions.  ANY new person asking questions.  At least until they prove they only wanting to be spoon-fed information instead of actually digging for answers when they are pointed to information that has been garnered on websites or a group’s “file” section.  Change begins with RECOGNIZING when someone is being targeted for their age in EITHER direction and stepping up to correct the situation by both responding in a decent manner to whomever is asking the question and calling out the shitty attitude of the person answering the question…  Granted there will be times where a person feels bad, however, most people, when you point their attitude will offer an apology.  (In the way of receiving apologies… Be gracious.  It takes great courage for a person to admit they’ve screwed up.)

For real change to fight ageism, the answer is more simple than people tend to give credit.  Mentors are needed on the side of the older members of the GVC while ACTUAL students/seekers are needed on the side of the younger members of the community… It is a far more simple a solution that seems to be increasingly difficult to happen in the generational gaps that we find ourselves in.  Instead of slapping questions down, even when we’ve answered it time and again, we should answer the question and continue to point out where the information can be found and read.

A:  Change is nigh impossible when we are divided.  We should take care not to forget how we got here. We should not scoff at our seniors. Their contribution and hard work laid the foundation which allows us the benefits which we reap today. These are our founders. They have been through years upon years of successes, failures. Despite what we may think, very few ideas are original. Our tenured members have seen it before. They have valuable guidance and wisdom with regards to what went wrong, how it was received, and how we might do better.

Change requires action, and action begets respect. If you want to start an initiative, just do it. No one is stopping you. There are so many important things that need addressing and bickering among ourselves talking about the ‘old gits’ or the ‘stupid brats’ isn’t productive, helpful, and is not conducive to leadership. Further, it is toxic and spreads dissent and hate in an already small and fractured community. Let’s work together, shall we?

Question: What are the causes for ageism?

Z:  Honestly, the primary cause of ageism to the older members of the GVC are that many people in the younger generation forget that things had to start somewhere and had to be started BY someone.  Many forget that there ARE no new things under the Sun.  Things have been tried, time and again, and have all failed for one reason or another.  Listen when someone tells you, “this has been tried and THIS is where I think it went wrong.”  Don’t automatically think, “well that was then and this is now… I wasn’t on such-n-such project back then.”

When it comes to the ‘old farts’ of the community…  STOP.  Take a damned breath.  Don’t automatically drop into “is it this fucking shit again” and roll from there.  Sorry.  Not sorry.  We’ve all seen those “Elders” of the community who simply attempt to bully the younger members of the community simply because they don’t feel like answering a damned question.  Or those that attempt to judge a person based on the WAY they asked a question…  How are the young and newly awakened supposed to learn ANYTHING, if they keep getting shut down by the older members of the community.  It’s almost as if some of the older members of the GVC expect the newer members to automatically be up to date on more than 40 years of information and their myriad of shifts… *shrug*  Ludicrous, at best.  Damaging to the community, at worst.

A:  I think it is for two primary reasons.  One, it is indicative of the larger political context, right now.  There is a large gap between the old and the young.  Issues such as being LGBTQ, guns, feminism, sexual liberty.  Generations don’t necessarily define someone’s political views.  There are conservative youths and progressive elders.  Overall, though, there is a big shift on these core issues that the more someone looks at differences in age.

Secondly, I don’t think the divide in a community context is necessarily due to a generational difference.  I’ve been at the forefront of the split between one fraction of a community into a smaller, self-sustained one.  I think this divide is caused by the emergence of two different types of community.  Some are frustrated at the emergence of Courts in every neck of the woods by people who haven’t been around for long.  These are mostly of the younger generation.  As they are so visible, it can be easy to misconstrue this as ‘the younger generation’ when, in fact, it is a small segment.  I think the younger generation get upset that they feel their projects are not supported and that they get unnecessary grief from their elders.  Huddling in cliques without listening to other perspectives will never be beneficial for any community.

Zaar’s final thoughts:

As I said before, ageism is insidious in the very subtlety that it hides into.  It enfolds itself into the guise of everything from “you can’t tell me what I can and cannot do!” to “why don’t these damned young one’s  listen to a damned thing we tell them?”.  It flows through our communities with the ease of a Summer’s breeze and MUST be fought.  Just don’t automatically jump to the conclusion that you are being targeted by ageism.  Seriously stop to analyze what is going on around you to see if you are just experiencing an issue of miscommunication, or if this person is this way to EVERY person (younger to older/older to younger).  If they ARE that way with everyone… Don’t put up with it.  Call it out.

Ageism and the Greater Vampire Community


  1. prejudice or discrimination on the grounds of a person’s age.
    “ageism in recruitment is an increasing problem”



Ageism has been a thing in the GVC for quite a few years now.  Sadly, this issue is NOT going to go away any time soon.

There was a time, when I first entered the community that it didn’t matter WHAT your age was, for the most part.  Indeed, I was, as I have recounted several times before, 13 when I first entered the Vampire Community as a FULL member.  I was taken under wing by a woman who was fully in her 30s, and there was a man who was above her in his 50s.  These things, in the past, were commonplace.  It was common for people to “give respect” to their “elders”, as well.  This system of functionality worked for decades.  It was the foundation that gave the burgeoning community its strength to fight the negative connotations of the name chosen to represent what we are and what we do.  Indeed, such words as “leech”, “symbiont”, and a whole host of others were debated upon, to all be tossed aside for the moniker, “vampire”.  Even then, our predatory nature was taken into account and accommodated for what it was that we did… “Live off of the living, breathing life-force of others” (as was taught to me by my first Elder, Ashanti Whitemantle).

This was fine throughout the 70s, 80s, and even into the 90s until… Enter one each club promoter and vampire fan…  Suddenly, there was a marked change in the way the “scene” laid things out.  It was no longer correct to be a person above the age of 30 and be in the community (this age has changed as promoters of events have grown older, however, it still is an underlying factor).  When I first stepped out of the shadows and began to work openly (at 25), I was told by certain members of the community that I had “limited viability” (Again, repeating mistakes made by the Gay Community, so I tend to draw a LOT of parallels).  It is as if people who are 30, 40, 50 or older no longer have a right to live, let alone celebrate the life that they have or have had.  This, formally, by way of the harsh treatment that many older community members get by the “thin-blooded, thin-skinned, overly demanding fledglings”, is AGEISM.  Pushing members out of the community because they simply don’t meet your unrealistic expectations of an age limit, is both heinous and FULLY a form of bigotry that is growing within the community.

No longer do we, as a community, celebrate the accomplishments of the older members of the community.  No longer do we, as a community, treat them with dignity and respect for the fights that THEY have had to fight so that the younger members of the community can continue to do their little party promotions and activities.  No longer do we, as a community, accept their experiences as a form of foundation for our own to grow on and move into the next level.

Ageism cripples the GVC on a nigh daily basis.  You can see this at EVERY major event thrown FOR the community.  There is nothing available for those who are no longer into the “stripper bar” way of life.  There is nothing for those who are no longer into the “bar” scene on any level.  (To add to this, there is nothing that is even NON-ALCOHOLIC for our brothers and sisters in addiction recovery at these events)…

Think about it.  I am soon to be 52.  I STILL enjoy getting on the dancefloor and shaking the dust off my ass to music, both past and present, for my OWN reasons.  I STILL enjoy celebrating life and meeting new people (and reacquainting with old friends).  I STILL enjoy living.  Curmudgeon though I am becoming, I STILL enjoy living. AND THERE ARE OTHERS LIKE ME OUT THERE IN THE GVC!!!

So.  Why the sour grapes when someone over the age of (currently) 40 speaks on their experiences within the community?  Why the sudden need to flock to just one person’s experiences over the more than 30 GVC members that fall in the 40+ category? Even as recent as March 24th, 2016, there has been a young person in the community disparaging “old people”.  How we are not part of the future progress of the community.  Really?  REALLY???  Are you fucking nuts?

First.  If it WEREN’T for the fact that we bled, sweat, and cried over self-identity and the creation of “safe places” for us to gather, there would be NO COMMUNITY.  No matter WHO claims to be the mother or father of the community… We would still be slinking around the outskirts of the BDSM community like some sort of parasitic growth, meeting in secret, as if we were ashamed of who and what we are.  We FOUGHT so that the “thin-blooded fledglings” can be self entitled little disrespectful shits towards us??  Not this faggot.  I FOUGHT so that I could enjoy the community, events, people, and places that I go to.  I FOUGHT, fang and claw, to step out of the shadows and break away from a group that was solely dedicated to secrecy and keeping its doors closed to be shut out by a group of little “flitters” that just crawled out of the bat closet screaming for recognition in the big, bad community that they haven’t done one damned thing to EARN that recognition.
The truly sad part in all of this is the fact that one of the CURRENT people calling for this stupid shit is a young man who hasn’t bothered to be part of the community, nor help with anything in the local community except ONE thing in which perceived slights happened that angered him, so now he is taking out on anyone in the community that will not bow down and kiss his ass when he makes an overgeneralized, broad-stroked, all encompassing statement that are just factually inaccurate.  He assumes, like so many of the younger people out there in the community, that EVERY Elder equates to the same person(s) who he perceived slights from.

Second.  I may not agree with EVERY community leader out there (and lord knows that I am an opinionated old fart), however, I respect their work for what it is… THEIR WORK.  I have had more than my share of run ins (sometimes like rams clashing in the mountains) with Elders who I feel have diametrically opposed views, however, I have ALWAYS respected them (though I can be terse at times, given health issues and/or lack of sleep).  Even if we have ended up in heated arguments (no other word for it) and been on diametrically opposed sides of an issue.  Lady CG, CJ, Deacon Gray, to name a few… *shrug*  That is just the way I am and I see NO reason to change this any time in the near future.

Third.  Riding on the coattails of those who came before you without acknowledging that they are still active and choose to remain active within the community is like cutting off your feet and trying to run on the bloody stumps.  Damned near impossible and stupid to boot.

How does one combat such stupidity?  Where do us “old people” go when faced with the potential amounts of inanity that is being produced by younger members of the community who are simply looking to make a name for themselves by denying the very basic fact that we… “old people”… are STILL going to be present in the GVC, no matter what they think, feel, or attempt to justify and that ONE DAY, they, too WILL BE AN “OLD PERSON”?

So… You think you can continue a community WITHOUT the root of it?  You’re either sorely moronic or haven’t followed a single ounce of history in your life… Cut the root away… EVERYTHING dies…